Monday, May 7, 2012
Alzheimer's Disease is brutal... much more brutal than cancer. I never thought I would say that, having lost my mother to lung cancer 22 years ago, but I find, with the death of my father last night, that it is true. Cancer attacks the body, but Alzheimer's attacks the mind, the memory, the personality... that which makes us what we truly are. Alzheimer's robs a person of their true essence -- the person God made and built them to be -- and replaces them with an empty shell of themselves; present in body, but absent in mind. Sometimes kind, compassionate people turn into angry, vindictive people that you wouldn't want to be around, let alone grow up with or love. Sometimes the disease turns them into catatonic zombies that will only aknowledge you if prompted to. I've seen both phases during this long, difficult journey with my father.
Being a writer, it is natural that I would want to vent my sorrow and explore my inner thoughts concerning my father's death through the written word, and so I do. Mine is not a perfect story of a perfect relationship between father and son. Like so many similar stories, ours was one motivated by friction... friction caused by a mutual stubbornness and a failure -- or refusal -- to understand one another's viewpoint (particularly during my teens and twenties). He was a hardened, tool-and-die man of 40 years, while I was a sensitive, cerebral young man more intrigued by art and literature than sports, hunting, and "learning a solid trade". Such far-reaching differences make for a volatile relationship.
I suppose much of this friction began from the very beginning. My father was an army man when he and my mother married and, even after I was concieved, he continued his service... only without us. While he was stationed in Germany and then Korea, Mama and I stayed on the homefront. For the formative years of my life, it was just me and her ( talk about the catalyst for becoming a "mama's boy"). When Daddy finally did return to the States for good, I was two years old. Mama said I took the toy tank that he offered me, handed him his uniform hat, and said "Now go!" After that, there always seemed to be a distinctive distance between the two of us.
There was no denying that he truly loved me. It was just that he didn't exactly understand me. He didn't understand my leaning toward art during my early years and he certainly didn't understand my desire to become a published author in my mid-teens. He seemed frustrated that I didn't want to attend vocational school and learn a trade like engineering or drafting. I, in turn, was frustrated that he didn't see my talent and potential, the way my mother obviously did. After my first novel was published, he began to see that my aspirations were valid and he developed pride in my accomplishments. A musician and lover of country music himself, he even tried his hand at song writing at one point.
I suppose we were the closest following the death of my mother in 1989. I was still living at home at that time and we found ourselves depending upon one another to fill in the gaps that Mama's absence had left behind. I helped him pay his bills and keep his financial state in order (something that Mama had always taken care of). In turn, he gave me the opportunity to quit my job and write for a living, helping me pay my car payment when I could have never done so otherwise.
If my father had one flaw, it was that he could not devote himself to more than one person at a time. So when he remarried, I found that our brief period of standing on common ground slipped a bit and we began to return to the way it had been before. His admiration continued, but that old awkwardness returned. Whenever we would meet it would be "How are you doing?"and "What have you been up to?", followed a strained silence, as my wife and step-mother (who, incidently, are neice and aunt... this is Tennessee, you know) carried on the majority of the conversation.
I do recall some of the ways he showed his love toward me and my family over the years, though. Daddy was an inventive person and could pretty much rig up any device that he set his mind to. I remember him using milk cartons packed with ice and linked to the air vents of his '56 Chevy to conjure up an artificial "air conditioner" to keep us cool during long vacation trips in the 60s. And, on another vacation trip in the mid-70s -- when there was no such thing as an Ipod -- he took an old 8-track car tape player, linking it to the car battery and postioning in the floorboard of the back seat where I sat, and wiring in stereo headphones, devised my own private stereo system because he knew how much I loved listening to my rock music back then. What other father would have had the ingenuity and desire to do such a special thing for his son?
After my marriage to Joyce and the birth of my first two children, however, I saw that ingenuity began to slip away and I suspected that something bad was taking place. His driving skills became erratic, he grew more irritable and frustrated at simple tasks, and his memory seemed to be faltering. I recall going to his house one Christmas to help him put up outdoor Christmas lights and finding him to be confused about how to do it, where his old self would have had no trouble at all. I remember me and Joyce riding with him to the local K-Mart to get lights for the shrubbery and porch and him regarding us suspiciously, as though he wasn't exactly sure who we were. After that, things got progressively worse and we discovered that he had been diagonosed with Alzheimer's Disease.
I wish to God that I could say that I spent a good deal of time with him during his declining years. But, as hurtful as the truth might be... no, I didn't. Due to my step-mother's conversion to Mormonish during Daddy's illness and her shunning of her old family in favor of her new one, an inpenetrable wall was built between us... one that has given me much grief and regret over the past year and a half. But I am not here to condemn another's religion or speak badly of anyone. I just find that I must defend myself against allegations of being a "bad son". I did my best to mend fences, but for the sake of my own family and particularly my children, keeping our distance was the best choice to make.
Although Daddy will be cremated and won't rest in the plot beside my mother (which pains me to no end), I can find comfort in the fact that he is now himself again... without confusion, without anger or pain. Being a Christian, I believe he resides with my mother, as clear-minded as he ever was and much happier and contented that he was in life. As for me, I'm looking forward to the time when I can see his smile and shake his hand and, together, we can stand on common ground once again.
I love you, Daddy.
Friday, April 13, 2012
Some of the most respected authors in the horror genre have donated signed books solely for these special fund-raising auctions. During the past few weeks, we have recieved dozens of rare and out-of-print books signed by the following folks:
Joe R. Lansdale
Kealan Patrick Burke
F. Paul Wilson
John R. Little
Ronald Kelly (me!)
Nancy A. Collins
I will begin listing these books on eBay at 6:00 pm Central Time on the 14th. Each auction will have a 7-day time period (to allow folks time to gather funds if necessary). Also, I'll be adding more books throughout the following week, since I have quite a few donations rolling in from the good folks at Cemetery Dance, Bad Moon Books, Overlook Connection, and Thunderstorm Books.
I'll post the auction links to interested bidders here at Southern-Fried & Horrified on Saturday night. All proceeds from these auctions will got toward Reilly's airfare, accommodations, meals, etc. while she studies and tours in France, Italy, Switzerland, and Austria for three weeks.
If you'd like to hook up with some awesome books and help a great cause in the process, be sure to check back here tomorrow night for futher details!
Monday, March 12, 2012
I have written a short-short story called "Beneath the Bed", which I will be printing on heavy-grade paper (suitable for framing!). This story will be limited to 250 copies and will be signed, dated, and numbered by myself. Also I will be embellishing the page with some genuine Ron Kelly artwork.
This story will be published one time and one time only for this fund-raising project. After that, it will be permanently retired and, hopefully, make the story something of a collector's item.
So far, the response has been phenomenal. They're going fast!
So how do you get your very own copy? Just make a modest $10 donation (plus $3 postage) to Reilly's cause. To learn more details head on over to http://ronaldkelly.com .
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Roy Robbins at Bad Moon Books just informed me that the trade paperback editions of both Timber Gray and Cumberland Furnace & Other Fear-Forged Fables will be available and ready to ship on May 20th!
Both of these books were previously only available in digital e-book format, but BMB has now brought them to true-book life in these slick paperback editions. Cumberland Furnace is a much-expanded edition of the seven story mini-collection, featuring 22 previously-published tales of Southern-fried horror, as well as several brand new stories. Timber Gray is my first published western novel. It is not a horror western, but is a very dark and violent tale of a wolf hunter who must deal with his hatred of timber wolves following the violent deaths of his family, as well as endure the hardships of blizzards, renegade bounty hunters, and other dangers as he tracks fifty maurading wolves across the Bighorn Mountains of northern Wyoming.
You can order your copies now at: http://www.badmoonbooks.com/home.php?cat=89
And be sure to keep an eye open for more news concerning upcoming Ronald Kelly/Bad Moon Books projects that are currently in the works!
Tuesday, April 12, 2011
Friday, March 25, 2011
All you folks with Kindles, Nooks, and other new-fangled reading devices... gather 'round! Ol Ron is serving up a heaping helping of Southern-fried horror down at the Kindle Store. Nine terrifying titles and more to come!
The supper bell's a-ringing. Come and get it... if you dare!
Monday, March 14, 2011
Bad Moon Books has just put up two of my upcoming titles for pre-order.
Cumberland Furnace & Other Fear-Forged Fables is my second full-fledged short story collection. It contains 22 tales of Southern-fried fright, including several previously unpublished stories. This is the print version of the digital collection released by Crossroad Press in 2010, except greatly expanded. It also contains a section of story notes giving my thoughts on every tale in the collection.